Whether you’re still holding strong to your New Years commitment, or you’re just trying to be a committed person in general, your attitude will have a major impact on the results.
Some say attitude is everything. I don’t think I’d go that far, but it is super important.
The way you feel about a thing or task has a big impact on how you treat it. If keeping to that low-carb diet seems impossible, you won’t do it. If you don’t think you can become a better pickleball player, you probably won’t. But if you look at such activities and habits with a hopeful, expectant attitude then you’ll likely stick to them and improve.
The sage words from Diamond Dallas Page in his yoga video series keep forcing their way in my thoughts,
“If you think you can or if you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Just after that, the venerable DDP turns and looks straight into the camera (I mean, your soul) and says, “Come on, you can do this!”
You know what, he’s got a point, even if his coaching methods are a bit cheesy. Then again, he’s buff and healthy, so he probably knows what he’s talking about.
When it comes to animals and children, positive reinforcement has often shown to be a more effective training method than the negative version. It helps to catch them doing the right thing and heap on the praise and treats.
Don’t bother with cats though, they just do whatever the heck they want. No amount of catnip can get them to dance Merengue. Trust me on this.
Rewards and encouragement are a solid path to good actions getting repeated. But how often do we shut ourselves down with our own negative self talk?
“It’s too hard”
“I’ll never get there”
“It’s not worth the effort”
“I’m just not good enough”
I’ve caught myself saying these more often than I’d like to admit. The problem is, these statements only become truthful because we repeat them until we believe them.
It’s time to replace such statements with something more helpful.
“It’s worth a try”
“I can only get better”
“At least I can give it my best”
“I can do this”
Can these statements enable us to do humanly impossible things like jump to the moon? Well, no. But wait … no, still no.
However, they can change our attitude toward what is possible and get us to jump higher and farther than we ever believed we could. You just can’t know your limits until you try and push them.
What creative effort have you talked yourself out of? Why not give yourself a little positive pep talk (and surround yourself with encouraging friends) then try again? Where will it take you? You’ll never know until you try.
Come on, I’m positive you can do this!